You Are Not Alone
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You Are Not Alone
Breaking the Chain of Negative Self-Talk: A Journey Towards Self-Empowerment and Growth
Ever found yourself stuck in a loop of negative self-talk, feeling its crushing impact on your self-confidence and personal growth? That’s what we, your hosts Debbie and Greg, are picking apart in this episode. We explore how these self-deprecating narratives, often ingrained so deeply that we fail to recognize them, can trigger anxiety, depression and stress. We share personal experiences and examples to help you understand this self-defeating dialogue and introduce ways to steer it towards positivity.
Remember that time when you weren’t kind to yourself? We dive deeper into this, highlighting how our environments and even social media can fuel this destructive cycle. It's not all doom and gloom though, because we also discuss the power of positive self-talk—its potential for building self-esteem and helping you reach your goals. Debbie shares a personal anecdote from her first job, emphasizing how our choice of words can shape our self-perception and experiences.
Finally, we highlight the importance of combating negative self-talk with practices of gratitude, positive affirmations, and self-encouragement. Making mistakes is human, and there's immense growth in taking risks. We discuss how setting small, achievable goals and acknowledging your strengths and positive qualities can help you break free from the hold of harmful self-talk. So, join us on this journey of transformation and let's work together to cultivate healthier inner dialogues. After all, you are not alone!
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are Not Alone podcast. My name is Debbie Gold and I'm here with my co-host and son, greg, and we are so glad that you're here with us. Each week on this show, we will talk about informative issues, issues that will make you think and help you grow. It is our wish that you will find hope, encouragement and a little bit of Jesus in every episode.
Speaker 2:Hello and welcome to our show today. I'm here with Greg and I'm Debbie. Today we're going to be talking about negative self-talk, essentially what it is, why we do it and how to correct it or stop it. So I have to. I was thinking about all this, but I came to the thought that there's so much power in our thoughts and we do a whole lot of good with them, but we can also do a whole lot of bad with them, and our words have a huge impact on the kind of life that we will have and the kind of person that we will be.
Speaker 3:That's so true that so many times where I've said stuff like little things, that are like negative, and I just don't even realize it, like I drop something I'm so stupid, you know something like that Like really small stuff like that. I was just thinking, because you were talking about, hey, I want to do this episode on negative self-talk, and I was just thinking to myself, when do I do that? And I kind of realized, thinking through it, I do it a lot more than I realize I do it a lot.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that's such a good point because that's true for everybody until you really make yourself aware of the fact that you do do that, and we all do to some degree.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's normal.
Speaker 2:Some of it can be really kind of like. I'll use my example of I was just a bad cook when I first got married to your dad, which is a story that gets passed around, usually on holidays. I don't know why, but it kind of comes up.
Speaker 3:So that's just something.
Speaker 2:I kind of went oh well, yeah, I'm not, do I really care? I don't know. But when it's something that really is important to you or really touches you and it's repeat that over and over to yourself, that's when you start doing damage internally. Yeah, and we'll talk about what some of those things can be. But okay, so what is negative self-talk? It's an inner dialogue that you have with yourself that will limit your ability to believe in yourself and to reach your potential. In other words, it will stunt your success, it will hold you back, it will stop you from reaching that goal.
Speaker 2:So we definitely want to be paying attention to what our negative self-talk is and what we can do to change that.
Speaker 3:I think that's so important because I don't know who it was growing up. But somebody kept saying to me watch what you say because you'll start to believe it after a while, like your brain will start to believe what it keeps hearing and it'll take that on and it'll come true basically Not come true, but it'll speak it in. So if you're saying negative stuff all the time about yourself, it can't be good on your brain and yourself. Your self-confidence, your self-confidence, how you're feeling your social situations. I'm just yeah.
Speaker 2:Yep Totally. You really hit the nail on the head with that? Yes for sure, absolutely so. Um, my one point here was that self-talk can be so automatic that we're not even aware that it's happening, and that's why we are talking about that today, because we want to get everyone aware of what is going on in our little brains that could be damaging to us. So just some little examples. You brought up a good one, like if I drop something or something I'm so dumb Like little stuff, little things.
Speaker 2:How do I do that? Why do I do that again Again?
Speaker 3:Stupid me, silly me. I'm so clumsy.
Speaker 2:Another is I can't do anything right, which is kind of what you're doing, Maybe no, no, I get that.
Speaker 3:I drop something and I'm like, oh my gosh, what a day.
Speaker 2:And it seems to happen in front of the people that you think don't like you or oh my gosh yeah. The girl is watching, or yeah, it's those situations, right? I'm so hopeless. Here's a good one. I think about you, greg. I'm just not good at math. I'll never pass algebra.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh, you've heard that how many times.
Speaker 2:Probably I can't even imagine how much internally you've heard that to yourself. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3:Almost every time I look at a sheet. I know right. Oh no, it's different with this math, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I won't do good at this job, and then they won't want to keep me.
Speaker 3:Oh, that one's terrible, like if you're starting a new job, that's a terrible one to go in, because I mean you're kind of essentially giving up before you even tried it. You know, you're telling yourself you're not going to be good at it, before you even experience it Right. So if it goes wrong, you're going to be. I knew it, I knew it.
Speaker 2:You're going to justify I thought I just lost it. But why would we? If you go into a situation with that kind of thought, it's not going to go well and I'm going to lose my job. You're setting yourself up for that? Yeah, because you're thinking this whole time and you're going to be anxious and you're going to make mistakes and then all of a sudden you're fired.
Speaker 3:And also, if you go in all nervous like that, you tend to overthink so much and that's when you do make like stupid mistakes. True, Like if you're just completely overthinking. I don't want to get fired over, I don't want to get fired.
Speaker 1:You're going to burn something or something?
Speaker 3:Yeah, because you're distracted inside. I don't want to get fired when you should be thinking about this About what you're doing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, task at hand. So, yeah and so. And then the opposite is true. It's like you know, I'm going to walk in here, this is something I'm going to love, because I've researched it. I'm going to, you know, do my very best and I'm going to be the best. You go in with that kind of attitude. What do you think is going to happen?
Speaker 3:It's probably going to go good. Yeah, or if, like, if you go in the goal, I'm going to make like two friends at this job today. It's my first shift. I'm going to try to get through this shift as best I can leave with a smile on my face. It'll probably work out pretty good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Exactly yeah. So you know, just to reiterate, you know we all have these thoughts, but when they start reoccurring over and over with same situations, repetitive, they will cause you stress, they can cause anxiety and they can tear yourself confidence down.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because it doesn't reflect reality at all.
Speaker 2:No, it's right, it's not reality.
Speaker 3:It doesn't reflect reality in any ways, because it's your thoughts.
Speaker 2:Your creative something, your bias imagination Right so.
Speaker 2:And I talked about that cooking example, you know, and what I honestly didn't care too much. I was busy with going to graduate school and just getting married and we bought the house and there was so much going on. But I did, over time, just keep. It was important to me and to a certain degree, and so I kept trying new things and I kept trying to find ways to improve. Because I was married, I felt like I should be cooking sometimes and I knew one day I'd probably have children, and so it just became a short term goal of mine to meet the longer term goal.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:When I had a full family. No-transcript, but you know, I could just. And the truth is, when I said I'm so bad at cooking, the truth is I could do some things that were okay and good.
Speaker 3:You know they dad told me he was like she was not the best but she could still do some stuff. Yeah, she gets still.
Speaker 2:So when I say I'm not good at cooking, that's a really good example of Trying to really take that. Look that you know, break that down, look at it, and we're gonna talk about that Maybe later in the next series that we do you just had like the skills to cook, but you didn't have the variety of foods to cook, like you could only cook.
Speaker 3:You know meats or something like that, you know.
Speaker 2:Well, and that's the other thing. So I grew up in Wisconsin it's all meat potatoes, so I can make my recipes that my mom did, yeah, but then again, dad from California didn't always like my mom's recipe, because it wasn't. You know, it was different than when you grew up on, so there was some of that in the factor too. So that's yeah, that fact and factored in on all that. But but we had to be careful about choosing our words yeah and and believing what we're telling ourselves.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because negative self talk has been actually found to feed anxiety and depression, and it causes an increase in stress levels while lowering levels of self-esteem. Yeah, so it's a two edge story.
Speaker 2:So you're increasing what you say stress, stress and you're lowering self esteem, decreasing self esteem, yeah, and then you get all this stress and you're anxious and you know it's like going into that job with that yeah, right I can see that being a disaster already yeah it's not even happening and it's a disaster.
Speaker 3:Yeah, well, I can almost relate to that situation. Do you remember when I worked at raising canes?
Speaker 2:for sure, I do yes.
Speaker 3:The very end part of when I was working there I had so back story. I worked there for what? Probably half a year, something like that.
Speaker 2:Less than that?
Speaker 3:I don't know something like that sure. First job at a first job in high school, yeah first like real, real job job that wasn't near my house and it went pretty well. It went pretty well for the beginning and then this new manager came around and the best way I can describe her is like a chihuahua short and very snappy. She was like four foot two and she had the anger.
Speaker 3:She was just always angry. Nothing was nothing would make her happy, and I was. I mean, most people knew me there, but I, she like, had a bone to pick with me for some reason she intimidated you, she tried to intimidate me, and, but I think she actually did with her
Speaker 2:presence yeah you were intimidated by that which anybody would be. Because, no, no blame, there, she was a manager, so I don't want to get fired, right, but she's treating me like crap and she's a very angry persona.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I was intimidated by that and going to work those like those last couple weeks. It really wasn't as fun. You know it kind of took the the jolly out of. You know, working there with my buddies, stuff like that, talking crap in the kitchen, doing fun stuff.
Speaker 2:Right, and I could tell, because there were times that you didn't want to go to work. Yeah well, that's a sign.
Speaker 3:Yeah right, something's not right. Never or not. I'd be like, ok, let me by. I'll be back, right I come home all happy and stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I remember those those past few weeks, so last week's and that's hard when you're when you have to deal with someone like that as an adult, but as someone in high school that's still trying to figure figure out how to deal with people and learn how to do all that social skills is a very tough situation.
Speaker 3:I agree so and.
Speaker 2:I wish I would have told you just to quit before you did, I know yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so anyway. And then you what? But here's the here's the beauty of this. You know we were going to talk about positive self talk A little bit, maybe today, I think, and then but more next week we're doing a little series on just feeling good about yourself. We'll have a three week series. We may add more to it, we don't know, but right now we have three different topics lined up for us over the next few few weeks here, and positive self talk would have been OK. So you know, when you're saying, you might have said you might have felt bad about yourself. I don't know what you were thinking, but you might have said you know, I failed at this, my first job. I didn't make it, but you could have said but you know what, instead of that, the positive self-talk would be I learned a lot from.
Speaker 3:I was gonna say I yeah, I learned a lot, yeah so you know what didn't work out.
Speaker 2:Stuff happens.
Speaker 3:I remember a. I remember actually the reason why I quit. It was over shoes. I was where, I was like six and I was six hours into a shift. My manager comes up to me hey, those are non-slip shoes. I look at him like huh, I've worked there for three months with the same pair of shoes every single day and I'm six hours in and I'm on the chicken or like the the basket line for the drive-through.
Speaker 3:So I'm making orders and stuff and the orders are like piling up as I'm just talking to the guy and he's like, okay, that's not safe, so you're gonna have to go home or go out to Target and buy some shoes or something and come back and I was like I was just, I was fed up because it was the, the short, snappy Chihuahua lady that are maybe mad. And then it was the non-slip shoes. I was like I've had it.
Speaker 3:I'm out of here so so, yeah, I drove. I drove to my gym. That was two minutes away. I called my mom angrily or angry Angrily um angry. I angrily called my mom.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And I was like I'm sick of this place, like I've just had it, and so we called it quits there and I called the manager back and I was like, okay, I quit by, or whatever I can't afford the shoes. No, Sorry yeah, I eat too much chicken.
Speaker 2:Anyway, you thought it was gonna be a cool job, cuz you know it had fried chicken and did that, yeah, yeah, it was an, it was an experience.
Speaker 3:It had the good, the bad, the ugly.
Speaker 2:It was fun. Sometimes you'll have something to share it with your kiddos when they get their first job and we got a raisin canes come out crying. Yeah, I did this when I was a kid, yeah so, yep, all right, like we.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we had good times and bad times there, like I remember Getting clocking in early in the morning and we were me and my buddy or whoever at the time was working with me We'd be getting the chicken, putting it into the water salt water, whatever and then you put in the milk water, you let it marinate, and we had to do like that five times and we go in and out the freezer. We were working hard, but it was so fun, yeah there's some time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it and it gets.
Speaker 3:it had its goods and it's bad Mm-hmm, so it was a lot of fun though.
Speaker 2:Well, good, good story. Um, All right, let's move on to our next, the next point, which is so why do we do this negative self-talk? And I really think a lot of that comes from our childhood. It maybe some people have difficulty fitting into school. You know there's comments from the classroom, the classmates that you hear, you think they're. You know they're talking behind your back, but you hear it and you you get left out. You know you're comparing it. You compare yourself to others instead of feeling good in your own, who you are.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I, when you, when I first read that I was like Early on in childhood. Then you mentioned school, mm-hmm, school is pressure, especially when you're younger. Let's say, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, all the way up till probably 11th. It is pressure. Right on your ego, on your social status, on what you drive on what your parents do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, it's like pressure there is that and and I think it's up till about fourth grade or so that kids kind of accept everybody. You know, and then at that point, somewhere around fourth and fifth grade, that groups in, the clicks all start, and Then the people that have, you know, don't fit in, like their parents, don't make the money or the you know, they don't wear the right clothes or the da-da-da-da does whatever games that nobody else does.
Speaker 3:Yeah, right the outcast kind of form. Yeah, so sometimes yeah, and then people pick on other people and yeah it's very, very hurtful. Yeah, middle school and high school for negative self-talk is rough. Yeah, I know a lot of high school. They just say no, say terrible stuff about themselves on a laugh it off.
Speaker 2:So well, you know the I don't know what the stats are particularly for. You know Middle school kids that have self-esteem, or you know issues or lack self-confidence, or your high school kids even but I know it's, it's pretty high but also kids so having trouble fitting into school. Or you have critical teachers or critical parents.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's gonna impact you. It's gonna impact you.
Speaker 3:Do you remember, mr Scott?
Speaker 2:I do totally he. He was in middle school and then he went up to the high school and you were really no, no, you were middle school, he was at elementary and then he went to middle school. Yeah, yeah in middle school. Listen to Jim, teacher no who know he wasn't.
Speaker 3:That was history history Okay when he called me out in class. Oh, I've never wanted to just crawl into a chair and just I'm here sometimes because all the heads would be looking at me and it was the same for every kid, but like you felt in when you want to teach you how to do out when you're young like that. It's like oh, you know it because all the kids are looking at you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and especially if you don't know how to answer the question right.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And if that happens over and over, one incident, probably not a big deal. I think we've all experienced that. But if it happens over and over, it becomes ingrained in you that I am not good enough, I don't know the answers, I'm stupid. You know, I'm scared to even be in class anymore, you know, those are the kind of things. This is how this kind of rolls right and it can be very impactful on people.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Kids that are abused or neglected, fatherless boys. I really feel that they're you know, they have you know issues with self-esteem and go into that negative self-talk. Social media is no friend.
Speaker 3:I would say absolutely worst for negative self-talk. Yeah, because there's this thing where kids can go on the internet and say the most vile, disgusting stuff and they know that there's no consequences and they know that there's no face attached to the comment, so they can just, you know, boom, no problem, throw the phone away. You know it's that fear of, or it's the not, yeah, not having the fear, you know, being identified and really what you're saying to somebody, because people don't really understand the heaviness of some of the stuff that it can carry.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, they don't. People don't know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like if you have a really bad day already and somebody says something to you that's like pretty hurtful or malicious, it can make your day go from bad to worse right. But if it's like, let's say you're having a bad day, somebody says you know something bad to you. It can just make your negative self-talk go out of control. So you just make your day worse.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. And then there's also a thing to this I've actually found when I was doing some research but feeling close to your parents is really important, but if you don't feel loved by your parents, you don't feel that support, affection, involvement, responsiveness, that will just really create low self-esteem. I mean, those are your people.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And those are the ones that lift you up, build you up, and if you don't have that, that's a problem too.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because you can't do life alone.
Speaker 2:No for sure, right? No, no, that's good, I like that, yeah, but I want to say there is good news. And I want to move on to the next point. But I was looking at a website called Salty Effect dot com, but it says the good news about self-esteem is that self-esteem improves for most people as they grow up, which means that the quality of their relationships are also likely to improve. And that's true. If you're feeling good about yourself and you're confident and all that, your relationships are going to be affected by that and better.
Speaker 3:People notice.
Speaker 2:They do, they notice so yeah. It's very noticeable. Sadly, the opposite is true is when you don't feel comfortable with yourself. You don't feel like you know I'm not worthy you walk in all shy and people will notice People notice and they tend to stay away from you.
Speaker 3:Or they judge you more.
Speaker 2:Oh, they judge you, yeah, anyway, okay. So let's move on to the final point, which is, like I said, the good news that you can conquer this, combat it. It doesn't mean, if you're struggling right now with negative self-talk and low self-esteem, that you're going to be there forever. So let's talk about some ideas that will help you work through some of this stuff. One of my favorite things and I do this every day myself when I have my prayer time with God is I practice gratitude and I tell him everything that I'm grateful for anything that pops into my mind, which is usually a lot, and I could ramble probably for a couple minutes, but you know just us today spending this time together, podcasting you and I. I am grateful for that, and I will say that tomorrow to him when I have my prayer time.
Speaker 3:I think that's so dang powerful. You know why? Because it makes you realize the simple things in life. I'm grateful for the clouds today, this morning. The simple things. And you start to notice the simple things more, and then you'll be high off life.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and just having a heart of gratitude just makes you feel better in general. So I always say that and you've probably heard me say it many times in our podcast sessions that we do, but that is just something you should do every day. Just take a few minutes in the morning or whenever it's good for you, and just say think about the things you're grateful for.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like if you go outside and it's a nice sunny morning, the birds are chirping, it's nice morning dew and you listen to the birds and all the animals and stuff. How can you not wake up with a smile on your face?
Speaker 2:Right, absolutely.
Speaker 3:I appreciate the small things because it can affect you in a larger scale.
Speaker 2:Sure, the other thing is to remember not to say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to someone else.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 2:Like if you're saying, oh, I'm going to go on this job interview and I'm probably not going to do well and they're not going to like me.
Speaker 3:Imagine saying that to somebody else before. That's a good point.
Speaker 2:It's really kind of funny, right. So why would you do that? You're your own worst enemy. Don't do that to yourself, Okay, Debbie you're going to do terrible.
Speaker 3:Okay, I'm scared for my entire life.
Speaker 1:I have anxiety going into this interview.
Speaker 3:I'm probably going to fail it, but you'll do great it's like you're just setting them up for failure. Yeah, so it makes so much sense, though that's a great one, that's a very good one.
Speaker 2:Just be encouraging and gentle on yourself. Yeah geez, Everyone makes mistakes. We all have struggles. We get through them.
Speaker 3:We do.
Speaker 2:Just be gentle, don't be hard on yourself.
Speaker 3:We're all human. Yeah, we all make mistakes.
Speaker 2:Evaluate a negative thought and we can look at those examples that we had earlier. Like we kind of talked about my cooking one. We did kind of evaluate that and look at that. We changed it from.
Speaker 3:You know, I'm not a good cook or I'm a bad cook to being well, but I can cook some things good and or if you were trying to learn a new dish, instead of being like oh, this dish is so complicated I don't even know how. If I want to, I can, and it doesn't matter if I make a mistake. At least I try. There you go Right, exactly, so at least you're attempting it, and at least along the way, you'll learn something, right?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. So we want to respond. We want to really look at what we're telling ourselves and then really give it some thought and come up with some affirmations about that. Like you said, yeah, at least I learned something, or dang, I tried it and actually worked out really good. Did you ever have a situation?
Speaker 3:like that with cooking, where you've like just completely tried something new and dad loved it, or something. Oh yeah, I'm sure, but I've also tried something new and it's like you know, it happens when you try something new.
Speaker 2:Even if it's got four stars, you know it's still made.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I come out good. I tried the soup the other night and I was all excited for it. I was like reading reviews on the soup and all that and I try it and I'm oh gosh, and it's absolutely terrible. Oh yeah, okay, well.
Speaker 2:I remember the time you made egg fried rice just out of the ingredient. We had some rice left over. You took some eggs. You did. It was amazing. I was like wow, greg, awesome yeah you just did it by the I think this a little bit.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so it's us. It was really good. So you never know, right? Yeah, take the risk. Take the risk you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Speaker 2:Physical activity. You know it's so good to make you feel good, right.
Speaker 3:Setting goals and physical activity. That's the best.
Speaker 2:So good to make you feel good. It's so good for you to make you feel good, yeah, so try whatever that is for you. Just try to stay active. You just always feel better.
Speaker 3:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:And then what else? Oh, this is one of my favorites Make a list of all your positive qualities and strengths, because you have them, and if you're one that's suffering a lot from you know negative self-talk, and that's pretty abundant in your life. You have got to look for those things that you can do and then, once you realize which are really good at.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you're good at. Yeah, once you realize like what you're good at, you'll be like wait, I have this, this, this and this and this. I have so much to bring to the table, I didn't even realize it, you don't.
Speaker 2:It's kind of like catching your negative self-talk, like if you don't really make yourself aware of it, you don't even know you're doing it, so it's still. It's the same with the positive, positive things about yourself and your strengths. You've got to really you think about them.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, yes, I can do that and I can do that and you know I'm really, I'm a really good friend, or I'm you know I'm a good babysitter to my sister, or or I take really good care of my family. Yeah, you know I'm caring person, or whatever. You know whatever. There's a million things that it could be for you, but it's important to take the time to sit down and, you know, write those things out or put them in your phone notes, whatever you do.
Speaker 3:Yeah, cause it's like one thing Like I hear I go again school analogy if we're doing icebreakers on the first day of class, cause like nobody knows each other you know some people are like okay, what's one good quality trait about you? And I'll be like I don't know, but if I really sit down and think about it I bet I could name probably 50. So you have to like really sit down and think about it. I think yeah. So, but like off the top of your head, you really can't come up much.
Speaker 2:Well, I can, but I've thought about it a lot. All right, Well just an example you know, yeah. So, but you should do that then If you don't feel like you can. Great, you're so caring. I told you recently, I, you, we saw some family, we've seen new friends, new people. Everyone tells me how much you boys are just so kind and engaging and just have good hearts.
Speaker 3:I mean, people see it in you after they see you for an hour no I so, without example, I wasn't saying that I have like no, I thought you were talking about you.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, no no, I'm just giving you an example, okay, Well then we just told they can look for that too in themselves. We told her our audience that we gave them an idea. Yeah, Anyway so we're going to wrap it up for today, but I do want to close with that. You are a good person. I want you to really hear this. You are a good person, and what's defined you in the past is not what has to define you today. So call to action would be please stop judging yourself so harshly.
Speaker 3:We all make mistakes.
Speaker 2:All. We're all just doing the best we can, given what our experience has been, our circumstance has been, and. But it is up to you right now you could take this and change what's going on in your world. So I would like you to just write this down as a daily affirmation, positive affirmation that you could say to yourself every day, and that is I am a good person, and what's defined me in the past isn't going to define me today, all right. Well, that is our show for today. If you liked it, leave us a review. We want some reviews. Yeah, give us some feedback, give us some comments. We'll take it. Anything, yeah, positive, negative.
Speaker 2:That's right, that's what we say. Anyway, all right, we love you. Thank you for listening and remember that you're not alone.